Have Better Sex by Learning Deliberate Orgasm
A Process that Keeps Getting Better

Learning Deliberate Orgasm can Keep Getting Better throughout your Sex Life

Dr. Patti Taylor: What are some of the stages that a couple will experience as they learn Deliberate Orgasm?

Susan: That's a very good question.  It is a process, from the time two people start to practice Deliberate Orgasm - they could be doing it for many years - there is always new things to learn and explore and research about your partner's body.  So it really is a process that just keeps getting better.

We've been doing this for 25 years and there are still new things that we learn about our bodies and about each other. It is a very intimate way of relating, which requires a level of communication that is so fun. It just keeps getting better.

That is how we define a good sex life, one that keeps getting better.  We found throughout the years of research that DOing is really the foundation and there are always new things that you can find out about.

Francoise: Right. We encourage people to experiment, introduce it in their sex lives as something to add to what they already do. They will notice very quickly that it will actually enhance all of the other things that they already do.

Dr. Patti Taylor: Is it something that starts out difficult for a lot of people and then gets easier?  You must work with hundreds of people if not thousands, is it easier for most people over time or is it always challenging?

Francoise: It is very easy. The fun part about it is that from the very beginning, it is very easy to do.  That is what we wanted to show in the DVD Series "A 3 Minute Orgasm" - that it is easy and a man can gratify a woman.  She can be gratified in three minutes per day. 

You can always get to a new level.  Find what you are doing good and just keep on going to a better place. There is more exploration to do, but it is really easy to get started. Just learn how to get right on her clitoris and stroke with these little strokes right on the left side of her clitoris and there - she will be coming.

Dr. Patti Taylor:  I think that is an important point that you teach, which is to get started right away on her clitoris. A lot of people teach that you need a lot of warm up. You are saying sort of the opposite, go right for the clit and get started.

Francoise: One of the very basic tools that you can use is make sure you use a good lubricant. You can use a KY lubricant. Or, when people are partnered together for a while, they can use some Vaseline.  A little dab of Vaseline or lubricant is a wonderful addition.

You get right on the clitoris and the position that we like to use is one that the man can look at the woman's pussy. It is such a turn on to have a man look at your pussy and describe what he notices while he is doing it. It is very simple and it is so fun.

Susan and Francoise, Welcomed Consensus sensuality instructors, interviewed by Dr. Patti Taylor

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